Funeral Flower Guide
How do I choose the right flowers?
What questions do I need to ask my florist?
These and many other questions and answers are detailed below:
Q. What type of flowers should I send?
Q. Where do I have flowers delivered to?
Q. When do I need to order flowers by?
Q. How do I order flowers online?
Q. What type of message should I send?
Q. Can I order more than one tribute?
Q. How do I know what delivery time?
Q. Can I call with my order?
Q. How big is a funeral Casket or Coffin?
Q. What questions should I ask my florist?
What type of flowers should I send?
The first question is are you sending flowers as a sympathy gesture to the family or a tribute to the funeral? If you are sending flowers as a sympathy gesture we would recommend you send flowers to the deceased's family and avoid the day of the funeral. They can be sent before or after the funeral date and would include a message such as "thinking of you" etc. We would recommend sending a Hand-tied Bouquet or basket arrangement as the recipients will have to do very little work to maintain them.
If you are sending a tribute, your relationship to the deceased or the bereaved in many cases dictates the type of tribute you may wish to send. Our Funeral Flower Guide provides some guidance to help you choose the correct item to send.
Funeral SprayFuneral Sprays are a popular tribute expressing sympathy. Traditionally sprays come in both single ended and double ended designs. Large Double ended Funeral Sprays sometimes referred to as Casket Sprays are often used to adorn a Casket or coffin with great splendour. Funeral Sprays are available in a wide range of styles, colours and sizes designed to suit your specific requirements and can be sent by Family, Friends and colleagues.
Funeral WreathsFloral wreaths are probably the best known of funeral and sympathy tributes, their ornate circular design is extremely versatile and are perfect for sending direct to a funeral as a mark of respect. The ring signifies eternal love or friendship. Available in both contemporary and traditional designs, our wreaths come in a wide variety of styles, colours and sizes.
Sending a floral heart tribute to a funeral makes a deeply personal statement and is indicative of the love and compassion felt by immediate family or the closely bereaved. Our beautiful range of heart designs come in a tasteful variety of shapes, colours and sizes.
Funeral CrossThe Funeral Cross are often the primary tribute at a funeral and represent extremely personal sentiments and feelings. These tributes are typically chosen by immediate family or close friends. Our Funeral Crosses are available in a variety of beautiful colours, shapes and sizes that will suit most budgets.
Pillows and CushionsFuneral flower pillows and cushions signify a comfortable resting place for those who have passed. The tributes can be created by our florist either 'based' which means covered in a carpet of Chrysanthemums with a ribbon edge or 'open' which means flowers and foliage together. These are very pretty funeral flower tributes and come in a range of sizes and colours.
Funeral Letters Wreaths
Funeral letters to spell out a name. Whether it's for Mum or Dad, Son or Nan or if you want to make your own word or name. Funeral Flowers letters are around 30cm high and are generally surrounded by ribbon to compliment the top flower colour. Realistically, a name that is 7 funeral letters long is about maximum for the hearse but names can be created in two parts if a name is longer.
Check with the family
It is always worth checking whether the family has requested a colour theme and if so you should pick a tribute accordingly. However, you will find that any tribute will be much appreciated along with any message that accompanies it. Normally you will have a 'feel' for the style and colour of the funeral flowers you want to send so do not be afraid to ask for them. We can always advise you if you need any help in this area as we have years of experience sending funeral tributes of all different shapes styles and colours.
Where do I have the flowers delivered to?
Most often deliveries are requested to the funeral directors where the deceased may be resting prior to the service. Delivery to a funeral director is recommended wherever possible as most of the flowers will be delivered to the undertakers allowing them to arrive at the service or home address together with the coffin.
Many funeral processions leave from the house and flowers can be laid out for anyone arriving at the house to see.
Many people have their tribute sent directly to the crematorium. Crematoriums position stands with the deceased name on in the garden of rest. The funeral flowers are then placed next to these along with the flowers that have arrived in the hearse. These will then be viewed by the family and guests after the service. There is further information here on the Crematorium in Chelmsford
Church / Place of Worship.
It is recommended that wherever possible one avoids ordering flowers for delivery direct to a church or place of worship. Very often these places are unmanned and it is not clear where the flowers should be left. Flowers left outside by the florist leaves them open to the extremes of the weather from the moment of delivery until the service and also, unfortunately, flowers have been know to 'walk' on occasions.
When do I need to order the flowers by?
When sending funeral flowers please try and order at least two working days before the funeral. For less complex items an order can be taken placed the day before. We will let you know promptly if for any reason we can not complete your order. Most florists are closed on Sundays so orders for early Monday morning delivery need to be received by midday Saturday. The florist will liaise with the funeral directors in order to ensure the smooth delivery of your funeral flowers and tributes.
How do I order funeral flowers online?
Simply select the product required from one of the collections and follow the simple instructions.
During the order process we will require
The name of the deceased or the person taking receipt of the delivery.
The address of the funeral director, Crematorium or the home address
The date and time of the funeral.
A card message to be sent with your tribute.
Alternatively call us on the number above and we can advise you and take your order over the telephone
What type of message is sent with the flowers?
It can be very difficult to decide what card message to place on your flowers at such a sad time. Below we have provided some examples which may help you in writing your own message. However, there are no hard and fast rules so write something from the heart and it will be appreciated.
"With deepest sympathy from the A family"
"Dear P, May you rest in peace. Love from A & B x x"
"Mum you are always in our thoughts, and we know that you will be watching over us from heaven.Love A, B & C"
"In loving memory of a dear friend, Love F"
"To Gran with love A & B"
"With love and fond memories of Aunt A from the B family"
"Miss you already - will be thinking of you always love A"
"Good night and God bless Mum, you will always be in our hearts A & B"
"Sleep well princess, you'll be in our hearts forever, our much loved sister A & B"
"Uncle C will be sadly missed but always remembered with a smile. Love X"
"In loving memory. A God bless you, may you rest in peace. Love X and Y"
"To a much loved Grandad May you rest in peace Love always T and D"
"Our hearts are filled with sorrow. Rest in Peace Love from your brother and sister"
"Our time together was far too short...May you be at peace in Gods arms. Love xxx"
”There are no goodbyes for us, wherever you are, you will always be in my heart from D to C I love you”
”Dad you will always be in our hearts and minds Lots of Love J, F & K”
”In memory of xx, who leaves behind a wonderful son and his beautiful family. Our deepest condolences.... All at ABC Co. ”
”In loving memory of our dear Grandad. Our hearts and prayers are with all the family and we wish we were there with you today. With all our love, G & R xxx”
”Now at peace with you loved ones, fond memories, your friend T”
”With lots of love and with so many fond memories of happy times. Rest in Peace. Love from M”
”Affectionate and fondest memories of dear xx from S and L”
”Uncle xx will be sadly missed but always remembered with a smile. Love M”
”To a true gentleman xx, who was always there for every one else, and will be sadly missed. Rest in peace love C, K & family x x x ”
”In loving memory of a lady who was always smiling. Love from F, W & Family”
”Xx, our hearts are filled with sorrow. Rest in Peace Love from your brother and sister C & P”
”Our time together was far too short...May you be at peace in Gods arms. Love, G & R
Can I order more than one tribute?
Yes you can order as many tributes as you wish. If you would prefer to speak to someone then call us 01376 519814
How do I know what delivery time for the Funeral Flowers?
Generally speaking, as long as we know the time of the funeral then we can work out the delivery time. Funeral Directors usually require flowers 2 hours before the service, however we normally call them to check. If you require delivery to a house then we normally deliver at least an hour and a half before. Churches and crematoriums normally need the flowers at least 30 minutes before the service.
Can I call with my order?
Yes of course. Call us and talk to our specialist funeral flowers team on 01376 519814
How big is a Coffin or Casket for a funeralCoffins and caskets can indeed be made to measure, and they can range from infant coffins to extra-long coffins and extra-wide coffins. The standard dimensions for a casket are 84 inches (approx 2m) long. These are the dimensions for a standard casket that is actually very different from a coffin. Our funeral florists would recommend a minimum of 3ft (1m) casket or coffin spray as decoration. A double ended funeral spray or coffin spray would be suitable.
The word coffin is what comes to mind when thinking about a funeral. A coffin is however a box with six sides and is what you will see in vampire movies. A coffin is wider at the shoulders than at the base, and although it may be used in traditional funeral services, caskets are more common and cheaper to manufacture.
A casket is a four sided box, used as standard in modern burials. If you are looking for an economical option for a funeral, you should most definitely opt for a casket or shroud as opposed to a six sided coffin.
Why send Funeral Flowers?Do you ever wonder whether to send flowers for someone's funeral? The norm has become quite blurred, so the decision isn't quite as simple as it once was. In the past, you were likely to see rows of circular funeral wreaths and funeral flowers in the chapel or church. Now, however, there might be a couple of circular funeral wreaths, but you'll see more of a variety of funeral flowers arrangements, live plants, and cards showing that a charitable donation was made in honour of the deceased. After someone passes away, whether it’s a friend, family member, or the loved one of a friend or family member, you may still want to send funeral flowers, even if you make a donation in the person's memory. Knowing what type of floral funeral arrangement to send depends on a number of factors, including your relationship to the deceased or family. Although there are no hard and fast rules about sending funeral flowers in Essex anymore, there are some guidelines that can help you decide what to do.
Reason to Send Funeral FlowersThe purpose of flowers at a funeral is to celebrate life. Whether the flower arrangement is formal or informal, it should provide comfort and help lift the mood of the family of the deceased and show that you care. However, avoid anything too light or silly, such as balloons or stuffed animals on a stick in the arrangement. If possible, include a handwritten note, you can have your Essex florist do it for you. A few simple words of condolence are all you need.
Regarding FaithYou will also want to take the faith and culture of the deceased into consideration before sending funeral flowers. What may be appropriate for one culture may be inappropriate for another. If you aren’t sure, ask the closest family member you know.
Common practices according to faith:
Catholic – Most flowers and arrangements are acceptable.
Protestant Christian – Most flowers and arrangements are welcome at both the memorial service and the funeral.
Mormon – Most flowers are appropriate. However, avoid arrangements on a crucifix or cross.
Eastern or Greek Orthodox – Most flowers are accepted, and white flowers are favoured.
Jewish – Although you may send flowers to the family members’ homes, flowers at the funeral home are not typically displayed. Some of the more contemporary Jewish funerals allow flowers at the entrance of the synagogue. If you are in doubt, you should probably refrain from sending flowers and opt for a fruit basket sent to the home of the family instead.
Baha’i – Most flowers and arrangements are appropriate.
Buddhist – Most flowers and arrangements are appropriate.
Hindu – Although floral arrangements are acceptable, garlands are more common at a Hindu funeral.
Muslim – The appropriateness of flowers varies in the Islamic religion, so ask family members before sending them. Many people of this religion prefer that you send money to a charity in lieu of flowers. If you choose to order flowers for an Islamic funeral, keep the arrangement simple and elegant.
Members of the Immediate FamilyHusbands, wives, children, sisters, brothers, parents, and grandparents may order any type of floral arrangement they like. However, there are certain types that are reserved for immediate family members. Keep in mind that funeral flowers from family are typically placed closest to the coffin during the viewing or wake. In some cases, they may be inside the coffin with the deceased.
A coffin or casket spray is generally from the immediate family. Other arrangements from the spouse, children, or parents may also include spray arrangements, funeral flower letters, pillows and cushions, and heart shaped arrangements.
Extended Family Members
Other members of the family such as aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, and even close friends also have a wide range of options. The traditional spray is often chosen along with funeral flower letters for the most impact. Sometimes, informal arrangements are good options because they can go home with the immediate family or taken to the cemetery.
Close Friends and Business Associates
Close friends and business associates of the family of the deceased may want to send funeral flowers to show that they are thinking of them during their time of grief. Some of the best floral arrangement for friends to send to a funeral include sprays, wreaths, basket arrangements, sheafs. Friends have the option of sending the flowers directly to the funeral home, Essex crematorium or to the home of the family member.
Questions to ask your florist
Q. Will my tribute be delivered on time?
(we will deliver your tribute on time. We normally deliver funeral flowers to the undertakers at least 2 hours before the service time and liaise with them the day before. We generally deliver to the house at least 1.5 hours before the service time)
Q. What is your contingency plan if there is an emergency such as vehicle breakdown or staff illness.
(We plan for most eventualities with staff that can step in at short notice and on hand vehicles if one decides to play up)
Q. Can I have a picture of my tribute text or emailed to me before delivery? (optional).
(We can do this as a matter of course, just ask!)
Q. Can I email you a picture of a tribute I have found for you to price and create?
(can't see anything you like on our website...email us a link or picture and we will get back to you: email@example.com)
Q. Will you liaise with the Funeral Director?
(we do as a matter of course)
Q. What sort of experience do you staff have?
(our staff have over 30 years experience in creating all sorts of tributes)
Q. Does your florist offer a no quibble money back guarantee?
(in the unlikely event you are not happy with your tribute, we will give you your money back, guaranteed!)
The Ultimate Guide to Writing Cards for Funeral Flowers
Writing a card for funeral flowers can feel overwhelming, but this guide breaks down the process into simple steps and provides examples to inspire your message.
Sending funeral flowers is a thoughtful way to express your condolences and support to those who are grieving. However, writing a card to accompany the flowers can be a daunting task. This guide offers tips and examples to help you craft a heartfelt message that will bring comfort to the recipient during this difficult time.
Start with a heartfelt message of sympathy.
When writing a card for funeral flowers, it’s important to start with a message of sympathy. Express your condolences and let the recipient know that you are thinking of them during this difficult time. Keep your message simple and sincere, and avoid cliches or platitudes. Here are a few examples to get you started:
- "Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers."
- "I am so sorry for your loss. Your loved one will be deeply missed, but their memory will live on forever."
- "Sending you love and strength during this difficult time. Please know that I am here for you if you need anything."
Share a fond memory or special moment with the deceased.
If you knew the deceased personally, sharing a fond memory or special moment can be a meaningful addition to your card. It can help the recipient feel connected to their loved one and provide comfort during a difficult time. Here are a few examples:
- "I will always remember the time we spent camping together. Your loved one had such a zest for life and a contagious sense of humour. They will be deeply missed."
- "I have such fond memories of your loved one's kindness and generosity. They always went out of their way to help others, and their impact will be felt for years to come."
- "Your loved one was such a special person, and I feel lucky to have known them. I will always cherish the memories we shared and the lessons they taught me about love and compassion."
Offer support and comfort to the grieving family.
When writing a card for funeral flowers, it's important to offer support and comfort to the grieving family. Express your condolences and let them know that you are there for them during this difficult time. Here are a few examples:
- "Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Your loved one will always hold a special place in my heart."
- "I am so sorry for your loss. Your loved one was a wonderful person who touched so many lives. If there's anything I can do to help, please don't hesitate to ask."
- "Words cannot express how deeply sorry I am for your loss. Your loved one will be remembered for their kindness, strength, and unwavering spirit."
Express your love and admiration for the deceased.
When writing a card for funeral flowers, it's important to express your love and admiration for the deceased. Share a favourite memory or characteristic that you admired about them. For example, "Your loved one was such a kind and generous person. I will always remember their infectious smile and the way they made everyone feel welcome." This can bring comfort to the grieving family and help them remember the positive impact their loved one had on others.
Close with a message of hope and peace.
It's important to end your card with a message of hope and peace. This can provide comfort to the grieving family and help them find solace during a difficult time. Some examples of messages of hope and peace include, "May your loved one rest in peace and their memory live on forever," or "Sending love and light during this difficult time. May you find comfort in the memories you shared with your loved one." Remember, your words can make a difference and bring comfort to those who are grieving.